Tho’ as a person who has been properly, professionally, and responsibly dx’d with pts, who has experienced the stigma of that dx from both fellow professionals and lay folks, who found effective treatment after the sad news (which at the time was correct) that pts was (thank god, time and research and learning march on!) an intractable condition, who has done the deep, painful, difficult work of recovery and is continuing to heal on a deeper level than I ever imagined possible, who was coaching those who were determined to recover and perhaps one day heal and advocating for recovery for those others dx’d with a smi before being dx’d myself, I am amazed once again about the rush to judgements by so many fine, well-educated, ought to know better folks.
I believe that as of today, Dr. Hasan is possibly a “paranoid schizophrenic terrorist with ptsd” if you listen to some of the mental health folks, the media, et al. And yet, what we know is that Dr. Hasan is a person who has been charged with the murders of 13 other people and the assault of another 43 with a deadly weapon. I believe I have stated the charges that were published correctly.

I stated in another blog that I never imagined homicide when I was in the midst of the pts pain. I should clarify by saying that, yes, I am aware that I, like all fellow humans, am capable of violence and even the taking of another’s life. The question was always, before, in the midst of, and after the official lable of post traumatic stress, knowing this, what is my responsibility? Shall I pass it on or not? I answered this question for myself when I was about 6 years old.

My Dad taught me how to use a gun when I was old enuf to demonstrate and speak to my understanding of the responsibility that presented/offered. I became excellent at skeet (out shot my old man!), and we hunted together. We also cleaned, cooked and ate at our table with great gratitude what Life had given us.
Time to wake up, my dear brothers and sisters!

She recently got a job close to home that she likes. She takes online classes part time and has a 3.8 GPA. On the surface, things look good. She’s beautiful and is very friendly and outgoing. If she got a scholarship or education loan, she wouldn’t have to worry about money. Our income is below poverty level so she qualifies. She won’t apply for a scholarship because she has a privacy phobia. It doesn’t make sense. College tuition and books are paid for but she needs money for room and board.

She often sabotages success. She recently stayed out all night and didn’t take her meds. She called and we warned her she had to take med on time. She ignored us and took them in the morning and then ended up fainting at work and was sent home. She is a new employee on probation and needs this job. It took months to find it. Because we brought up the seriousness of taking the meds on time, she got furious. She became verbally abusive and then said to kick her out or beat her up…horrible things.

We would like her to move out but we aren’t going to kick her out. She has no place to go and no friends. We’re depressed. We did everythig possible to help her and spared no expense getting services.

Doesn’t mean anything to her. We’re the scapegoats for mistake she makes. The moment she doesn’t like something we say, she attacks us viciously. I’m afraid my husband is going to have a stroke. My heart hurts whenever she starts on us.

Her therapist for the last three years was enabling her. We thought he was helping her but found out that he let her live with him for two weeks while his wife was out of town. His wife found out. Now they’re getting a divorce and he wants my daughter to move in with him. He’s 64. He’s been married for 40 years. This is all so bizarre. If we don’t let our daughter stay with us, she will do something stupid like stay with him for free room and board. We ask her to contribute money for food and expenses since she now has a job. She resents contributing one cent because she says she needs money in case we kick her out.

Our daughter had a horrendous beginning her first few years of life…locked up in an attic and her scalp burned with a cigarette. There was sexual abuse at age two. However, we aren’t the villains. We saved her.

Now we’re broke from getting services to help both our kids. We’ve also had job losses and lost most of our 401K. We’re facing bankruptcy. The money doesn’t matter as much as the drama and heartache we feel.

I’m 61 and haven’t been able to find steady work in two years. My husband had to move to a different town to get a job. We’ve been married 29 years so being apart so much is depressing, not to mention cost for extra housing.

He’s afraid for me to be alone with my daughter when she gets angry. I stay in my room with a locked door most of the time when she’s home.

We to make a difference in a child’s life. Now we know some kids can’t bond. We don’t look forward to the holidays. Our daughter sabotages every special event. She says holidays are phony traditions. Credit card companies are canceling us so this year we won’t be able to buy gifts anyway.

We love our daughter and don’t want her to spiral downward. She’s a great student and has so much potential. She’s very loving abd affectionate at times too. If she went away to college and could be with kids her own age, it might help. She’s talented and extremely intelligent. She needs a network of support. We do too. We have no one and she doesn’t either, except us.

Raising a child with a personality disorder is extremely difficult, especially when there is no family nearby. Some children need a village. We have no illusions that we weren’t the right parents for our child. We have little hope things will improve if we can’t find a miracle soon. We are burned out. We have no one to turn to for help. Any suggestions welcome.

I cannot help but wonder who you thought of killing, even for only five minutes? The massacre at Ft. Hood took only minutes to occur, minutes that atleast 13 families would give anything to reverse. Do you think that your admittance gives credance to the behavior of this terrorist? He obviosly was a sick man, tortured in many ways, but your comments come dangerously close to excuses. Please consider the lives, emotional, physical, spiritual and mental well being of the victims of this tragedy before you align yourself in too many ways with this criminal.

“The Soloist”…excellent! Glenn Close…yea! Time to wake up, folks!