5 Ways to Supercharge Your Love Life

5 Ways to Supercharge Your Love Life

Romance and love is a part of life. Whether we are single or are in a relationship, having a good understanding of how your brain works and getting brain healthy can put the sizzle in your love life or dating life.

Typically, we don’t think of the brain when contemplating dating or improving relationships, but our brains play a big part in how attractive we are to others and how sexy we feel. Here are five parts of the brain that you may want to pay attention to if you want a better love life.

Limbic System (LS)

The Limbic System can help you feel more attractive. It sets the emotional tone of the mind, it modulates motivation and the libido. It stores emotional memories and promotes bonding. When you’re feeling positive you can filter information accurately; you feel playful and sensual. That is an indication your LS is working well. This also means you’re more comfortable in close relationships, can go with the flow better, and can have fun dating and connecting with new people.

An overactive LS can make dating and maintaining relationships more difficult, overactivity can cause depression, negative thinking, you may shy away from sexual activity, push people away. To improve your LS:

  1. Get social. Bonding is essential to all human relationships. Be sure to spend time with others.
  2. Look for scents that make you feel attractive. The LS processes the sense of smell.
  3. Kill the ANTs (automatic negative thoughts). Do not believe every thought you have. Focus on positive uplifting and nurturing thoughts about yourself.

Basal Ganglia (BG)

The BG is involved with integrating feelings, thoughts and physical movements. It sets the body’s anxiety levels and mediates pleasure and ecstasy. When this area of the brain is functioning properly you see a positive future, feel good and relaxed enough to feel attractive and sensual.

If you are feeling plagued with multiple physical complaints, there may be problems in this area. To improve the BG:

  1. Predict the best. Look positively at prospects.
  2. Breathe to get control of your anxiety, tension.
  3. Focus on what you want. Clear focus is essential.

Prefrontal Cortex (PFC)

The PFC is the brain system that focuses on behavior. When the PFC is functioning properly, you are effectively supervising what you say and do. You’re more likely to follow through on your commitments.

Having an underactive PFC can cause problems building or sustaining relationships. People with underactive PFC have impulsive tendencies. They may say hurtful things without much forethought. To improve the PFC:

  1. Be cool and stay calm.
  2. Focus on what you like most, not what you don’t like.
  3. Get organized.

Anterior Cingulate Gyrus (ACG)

The ACG is responsible for cognitive flexibility and ability to shift attention, with a well-functioning ACG you are flexible, and adaptable with the ability to forgive mistakes.

When it’s over-active, you may find that you get locked in thoughts and hold grudges and hurts from the past. To improve the ACG:

  1. Notice when you are stuck. Break negative cycles notice when you are in them. Be aware of repetitive negative patterns.
  2. Have a smart carbohydrate snack such as sweet potatoes or hummus to improve your moods low blood sugar often correlates with anger and irritability.

Temporal Lobes (TL)

The TLs are involved with understanding and processing language, word retrieval, long-term memories, the TLs also controls emotion stability. In romantic situations, people with properly functioning TLs clearly understand what is said.

TLs that aren’t functioning well tend to be temperamental, they struggle with memory, and they may often take things the wrong way. To improve the TL:

  1. Dance with your partner.
  2. Listen to healing music.
  3. Create a library of experiences to treasure.

When we know how our brain functions we have a better understanding of how to form happy, loving relationships. If you want to improve your love life, why not focus on how your brain functions? Enhancing your love life by getting brain healthy can become the most exciting, fulfilling life experience.

To find out more about how you can improve your brain health and your relationships, contact Amen Clinics online today or call 888-288-9834.


  1. Thanks of very concise way to understand the role of the different brain parts thanks

    Comment by Darien Chiropractor Brian McKa — June 9, 2017 @ 8:35 AM

  2. Who would have considered brain chemistry as a major issue in romance. I had to crack a book about ACG. I was on your mailing list but have not gotten any mail in a while.

    I find the news letters more helpful than my wife’s shrink. I am starting to understand her a bit. Amen and his group seem to be the only ones who try to link brain science with behavior. Good work!

    Comment by Ron mesnard — January 10, 2018 @ 5:45 AM

  3. Hello Ron, thank you for your comments! We appreciate your feedback, and we’d love to have you on our mailing list for Dr. Amen’s newsletter. Currently you’re unsubscribed, please complete the form on this page to reactivate: https://amenclinics.com/newsletter/.

    Comment by Amen Clinics — January 10, 2018 @ 8:39 AM

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