Talk therapy isn’t always enough to help a person heal from the emotional trauma of divorce. This was the case for Jane, a 56-year-old woman who had divorced from her husband 18 years earlier.
Even though she had seen more than one mental health counselor, she was still suffering from the wounds of her divorce. It felt as if no time had passed at all.
“I had been suffering from a lot of anxiety, depression, and nagging, repetitive thoughts since then,” said Jane when she visited Amen Clinics for a more complete evaluation. “Those old tapes played over and over in my head.”
Jane had seen multiple mental health therapists over the years, trying to get to the root of why she couldn’t move past the pain of her divorce nearly two decades later. She felt stuck in life, unable to move forward with her life even though she desperately wanted to heal.
Jane had already tried talk therapy as well as emotion focused therapy (EFT)—also called emotionally focused therapy—without getting the results she wanted.
“If they had told me that to feel better, I should stand on my head and spin around,” Jane said, “I would have given that a try as well!”
HOW DIVORCE CAN LEAD TO PTSD
Finally, one of Jane’s therapists recommended looking at her pain through a new lens and suggested that she might have PTSD. Most people think that PTSD only occurs to military veterans who have seen combat, but that’s not the case. There are many nonviolent causes of PTSD.
PTSD is associated with severe anxiety following a traumatic event, although it is not considered an anxiety disorder, according to experts. PTSD symptoms may include flashbacks, nightmares, avoidance of reminders of the trauma, emotional numbness, insomnia, and, in Jane’s case, uncontrollable thoughts about the event.
PTSD can be a complex and sometimes confusing disorder. While two people may experience the same exact trauma, it isn’t a guarantee that both will later suffer from PTSD.
Certain risk factors such as adverse childhood experiences (ACEs), past trauma, and a family history of clinical depression may make a person more susceptible to the disorder.
As soon as Jane’s therapist suggested that she might have PTSD, she immediately began researching the disorder on her own. Most people affected with PTSD spend years trying to come to terms with the traumatic event that happened to them.
“I consider myself a lifelong learner (meaning I read a lot) and so after coming across Dr. Amen on my local PBS channel, I ordered his books and read them all,” said Jane. “They made a lot of sense, so I investigated his clinics and what could be done for PTSD.”
That’s when Jane decided to contact Amen Clinics and schedule an appointment. Jane’s comprehensive evaluation included a deep dive into the biological, psychological, social, and spiritual aspects of her life. She also took a sophisticated neuropsychological test that assesses cognitive, emotional, and intellectual functioning.
In addition, she underwent a brain SPECT scan. This functional brain-imaging technology measures blood flow and activity in the brain. It shows areas of the brain with healthy activity, as well as areas that are either working too hard or not hard enough.
Like most people with PTSD, Jane’s SPECT scan showed overactivity in several brain regions, including the following:
Deep limbic area
Basal ganglia
Anterior cingulate gyrus
Seeing her brain scans helped Jane understand that her PTSD symptoms were not due to some personal failure, but rather related to biological issues in her brain. This knowledge helped minimize the shame and guilt she felt for not being able to move past her divorce.
Based on all of these assessments, Jane was diagnosed with PTSD related to her divorce.
NEUROFEEDBACK THERAPY FOR PTSD TREATMENT
As part of a personalized treatment program, Jane began neurofeedback therapy sessions and quickly began to feel relief. Neurofeedback is a non-invasive treatment that provides moment-to-moment feedback on physiological functioning.
Several scientific studies have found that neurofeedback is beneficial for PTSD. Some research suggests that certain forms of neurofeedback should be part of standard treatment for trauma survivors.
It focuses specifically on the central nervous system and the brain. This means that while the patient is experiencing an emotion, feedback is given about their physical systems such as heart and respiratory rates.
This connection is then used to teach the patient about control while at the same time fostering a better understanding of the impact of their emotions on their physical selves.
“I could notice gradual changes in my racing thoughts and depression,” said Jane. “But the real winning component in doing feedback is that I became anxiety-free.”
Jane, who is now in recovery from PTSD, said it best, “It is such a gift to be free from all of those symptoms and to be relaxed and looking forward to life.”
If you’re suffering from emotional trauma related to a divorce or breakup, it may be worth investigating if neurofeedback can help you regain emotional well-being.
PTSD, anxiety, depression, and other mental health issues can’t wait. At Amen Clinics, we’re here for you. We offer in-clinic brain scanning and appointments, as well as mental telehealth, clinical evaluations, and therapy for adults, teens, children, and couples.Find out more by speaking to a specialist today at 888-288-9834or visit our contact page here.
This blog has been updated since it’s original publish date.
Do you find yourself forgetting your keys? Spacing out on why you walked into a room? Losing your train of thought mid-sentence? If you answered yes to any of these questions and you’re also a couch potato, there is one important strategy that could put you on the path to improved recall.
The secret to a better memory? Moving more.
Aerobic exercise provides greater blood flow to your brain, especially to the hippocampus, a region that’s crucial to memory. A 2017 study in 51 healthy men and women, ages 18-35, found that those who had the highest fitness levels had a firmer, more elastic hippocampus and scored the best on memory tests.
Healthy blood flow is crucial to your brain—and to your whole body. It transports nutrients, including oxygen, to every cell in your body and flushes away toxins. Even though your brain, which weighs about 3 pounds, makes up only 2% of your body’s weight, it uses 20% of the oxygen and blood flow in your body.
Exciting new research in Human Brain Mapping dispels the long-held belief that our brain cells age quickly; rather, it is the blood vessels that feed our neurons that are aging faster. If you want to keep your brain healthy, your mind sharp, and your mental health strong for as long as possible, you need to protect your blood vessels.
If you keep your blood vessels healthy, you may be able to avoid not only memory loss and Alzheimer’s disease, but also a host of mental health issues (see below) as well as physical problems like high blood pressure, heart disease, stroke, and erectile dysfunction, among others. You’ll also have a lot more energy and you’re less likely to be overweight.
BRAIN HEALTH PROBLEMS OF LOW BLOOD FLOW
Anything that damages your blood vessels or impairs blood flow hurts your brain. Brain SPECT imaging studies reveal that low blood flow is related to many behavioral and psychiatric issues. SPECT is a type of brain imaging study that measures the brain’s blood flow and activity. Low blood flow seen on SPECT has been seen with:
In fact, research in Nature Communications shows that low blood flow is the #1 brain imaging predictor that a person will develop Alzheimer’s disease.
11 WAYS EXERCISE PROTECTS MEMORY
Here are some of the many ways physical exercise enhances brain health and protects memory:
Helps increase the size of the hippocampus, the Holy Grail of any memory enhancement program, according to the American Journal of Geriatric Psychiatry and several other studies.
Protects the hippocampus from stress-related hormones, like cortisol, which normally shrinks it. Even leisurely walking has been shown to increase the size of the hippocampus in women, according to findings in Hippocampus.
Stimulates the production of growth factors, such as BDNF (brain-derived neurotrophic factors), which nurture stem cell production.
Stimulates “neurogenesis,” the ability of the brain to generate new neurons
Decreases the formation of beta-amyloid plaque, clumps of protein found in the brains of people with Alzheimer’s disease, according to the Journal of Neuroscience.
Improves cognitive flexibility, as shown in 2015 research in Current Biology.
Improves mood, which is important because research shows depression has been linked to an increased risk of developing Alzheimer’s disease.
Enhances insulin’s ability to lower high blood sugar levels, reducing the risk of diabetes. In some scientific journals, Alzheimer’s has been called “type 3 diabetes.”
Allows for greater detoxification through sweat, which is critical because toxins in any form damage the brain and increase the risk of memory problems and dementia.
Improves the quality of sleep. Some scientific research suggests that sleep disturbances may be a predictor of Alzheimer’s.
Improves immunity. Several studies have found immune system dysfunction in dementia.
WHICH EXERCISES ARE BEST FOR YOUR BRAIN?
Racquet sports are particularly beneficial. A 2016 study in theBritish Journal of Sports Medicine that followed more than 80,000 adults found that those who played tennis, table tennis, squash and other racquet sports had the lowest risk of dying during the nearly decade-long research. Swimming and aerobics are good choices, too. And if you walk, just be sure to keep up the pace to get the most benefits.
MORE WAYS TO BOOST BLOOD FLOW
In addition to physical exercise, there are many other ways to improve your blood flow, including treating high blood pressure, cholesterol, or other vascular problems, and avoiding cigarettes and caffeine, which constrict blood flow to the brain. Here are more easy, beneficial moves:
Hydrate better! Drinking at least 5 glasses of water a day could decrease your risk of hypertension
Drink more green tea
Limit salt intake
Take a good multivitamin/mineral, vitamin D, magnesium and an omega-3 EPA/DHA supplement daily
Support your memory with ginkgo biloba extract
Enjoy an ounce of dark chocolate every day (for the cocoa flavanols)
Eat more beets, green leafy vegetables, berries, pumpkin seeds, and cayenne pepper
Increase your intake of foods high in magnesium, such as avocados, nuts, and seeds
Eat more foods loaded with potassium, such as spinach and sweet potatoes
Limit alcohol, fruit juices, and sodas (including diet sodas)
Sleep 7 to 8 hours a night, and if you have sleep apnea, get it assessed and treated
Try hyperbaric oxygen therapy (HBOT), a simple, non-invasive, painless treatment with minimal side effects that use the power of oxygen to enhance the healing process. Before-and-after SPECT scans of people who have undergone HBOT reveal remarkable improvement in blood flow.
Blood flow is so important, it is the first risk factor in the Amen Clinics Memory Rescue BRIGHT MINDS Program, which identifies and treats the 11 risk factors that can steal your memory and your mind. Preventing and treating these risk factors is the best way to keep your memory sharp for the rest of your life.
We are available for in-clinic brain scanning and appointments, as well as mental telehealth, remote clinical evaluations, and video therapy. Find out more by speaking to a specialist today at 888-288-9834. If all our specialists are busy helping others, you can also schedule a time to talk.
Are you finding it harder to pay attention these days? You’re not alone. A study by Microsoft found that the human attention span has dwindled to just 8 seconds. That’s less than the 9-second attention span of a goldfish!
In part, you can blame our fast-paced, digital society for the dramatic decrease. With our phones, laptops, tablets, and digital personal assistants pinging and buzzing constantly, it’s nearly impossible not to get distracted.
That’s bad news for anyone who wants to succeed in life. Whether you’re working on a big project at work, developing a new product line for your business, or taking a professional course, concentration is key.
What can you do to regain your mental focus in the face of distractions? The first step is optimizing your brain, especially a region called the prefrontal cortex that’s heavily involved in focus, planning, and follow-through.
With our phones, laptops, tablets, and digital personal assistants pinging and buzzing constantly, it’s nearly impossible not to get distracted. That’s bad news for anyone who wants to succeed in life.
The prefrontal cortex (PFC) is the most evolved part of the brain. As such, it is essential in helping you reach your goals. The PFC is responsible for executive functions, which are higher-level cognitive skills.
These brain functions include concentration, attention span, judgment, impulse control, organization, follow-through, empathy, and critical thinking. This brain region controls your ability to look at situations, organize your thoughts, plan what you want to do, and carry out your plans.
When the PFC is healthy, it makes it easier for you to carry out these functions. When your prefrontal cortex is low in activity, it’s more challenging.
Functional brain imaging with a technology called SPECT proves it. At Amen Clinics, which has built the world’s largest database of SPECT scans, the images from tens of thousands of patients show that blood flow and activity in the prefrontal cortex are critical for focus.
Low blood flow and activity in the PFC are associated with difficulty concentrating, poor impulse control, disorganization, poor judgment and more. It is also a common sign of attention-deficit/hyperactivity disorder (ADHD), also called attention-deficit disorder (ADD).
People with ADD/ADHD also have lower levels of the neurotransmitter dopamine. This is linked to decreased motivation and focus. The good news is that you can boost activity in the PFC and improve focus and attention with some simple lifestyle changes.
Here are 5 neuroscience-based tips to enhance prefrontal cortex function to help you have better focus.
5 LIFESTYLE STRATEGIES FOR BETTER FOCUS
Eat a diet that’s higher in protein.
Nutritional intervention can be especially helpful for this part of the brain. Unfortunately, the standard American diet is filled with refined carbohydrates, which have a negative impact on dopamine levels in the brain and concentration.
Typical breakfasts consist of foods that are high in simple carbohydrates, such as frozen waffles, pancakes, Pop-Tarts, muffins, pastry, or cereal. This drains the brain and reduces the ability to pay attention to what’s most important in your life.
Focus Rx: Choose foods that are higher in protein and lower in simple carbohydrates. This is especially important for breakfast to start the day with better focus.
Listen to classical music.
Music has been proven to reduce distractions and improve focus. One study found that listening to Mozart was helpful for people with ADD/ADHD.
Rosalie Rebollo Pratt and colleagues studied 19 individuals, ages 6 to 27, who had been diagnosed with ADD/ADHD. They played recordings of Mozart for them three times a week during neurofeedback therapy sessions.
The group that listened to Mozart reduced their theta brain-wave activity (slow brain waves that are often excessive in ADD/ADHD) in exact rhythm to the underlying beat of the music. This group displayed better focus and mood control, diminished impulsivity, and improved social skill.
Focus Rx: While studying or doing other mentally taxing tasks, turn on classical music in the background.
Meditate or pray daily.
Most people think meditation helps you turn your brain off. In reality, it heightens activity in the brain, especially in the prefrontal cortex. Research indicates that both meditation and prayer improve blood flow to the PFC, which increases focus and concentration.
Studies show that even short sessions of mindfulness meditation improve attention. And you don’t have to be an expert at meditation to reap the benefits. In this study, beginners who listened to a 10-minute meditation session performed better on attention tasks.
Focus Rx: Spend 10-20 minutes a day in prayer or meditation.
Focus on what you love.
The prefrontal cortex is intimately involved with focus, concentration, and attention span. Where we focus our attention has a significant impact on how we feel and act day to day.
Many people with prefrontal cortex challenges, especially those with ADD/ADHD, tend to be conflict-driven as a way to stimulate activity in the PFC. They look for the negative, pick fights, and create drama to “turn on” their brain.
Unfortunately, this behavior has many negative side effects, especially on relationships and immune system functioning. When you’re struggling with your relationships or physical health, it makes it harder to stay focused on your goals.
Focus Rx: Focusing on what you like about your life and about others is a powerful way to keep your prefrontal cortex, relationships, and immune system healthy.
Do your best to stay organized.
People who have PFC difficulties often have trouble with organization. This can impact your ability to succeed at work, in relationships, and at home.
You might miss deadlines at work because you can’t find your files on your computer. You may irritate your significant other because you space out and leave the dirty dishes in the sink. Or you might forget to pay your bills because they’re hidden under a stack of junk on your desk.
It’s time to learn how to get organized.
Focus Rx: Day planners and computer organizational programs can be lifesaving. If you need additional help, ask others to teach you organizational skills.
STAY FOCUSED ON YOUR ABILITY TO PAY ATTENTION
Focus and attention are so important in life. Make it a priority to keep an eye on your ability to concentrate. By implementing the strategies in this blog, you’ll be better able to stay on track to reach your goals.
If you find that after putting these tips into action, you’re still struggling, seek help from a mental health professional. Be sure to look for a provider who understands that the brain’s prefrontal cortex is the key to improving focus and attention and who provides brain-based treatment plans.
ADD/ADHD and other mental health issues can’t wait. At Amen Clinics, we’re here for you. We offer in-clinic brain scanning and appointments, as well as mental telehealth, clinical evaluations, and therapy for adults, teens, children, and couples.Find out more by speaking to a specialist today at 888-288-9834or visit our contact page here.This post has been updated from it’s original publish date.
If you have ADHD, also called ADD—or if you have a child with ADHD—it can make life more challenging in so many ways. For example, people may think you’re lazy because you show up late for work, or because you wait until the last minute to start your household chores or work assignments.
Your child may impulsively say rude things, which makes it hard for them to make friends. And that can have a negative effect on the trajectory of their life. It can make them feel like a failure.
What you may not realize is that attention-deficit/hyperactivity disorder (ADHD), or attention-deficit disorder (ADD), isn’t your fault. It’s due to faulty brain activity in an area called the prefrontal cortex.
Learning more about this important brain region and how it functions in people with the mental health disorder can change the way you view yourself or your child. And it can lead the way to better control over ADD/ADHD symptoms.
What you may not realize is that ADD/ADHD isn’t your fault. It’s due to faulty brain activity in an area called the prefrontal cortex.
The prefrontal cortex (PFC), also known as the brain’s “executive center,” is the most evolved part of the brain. It occupies the front third of the brain, behind the forehead. It is often divided into three sections:
• Dorsal lateral section—on the outside surface of the PFC
• Inferior orbital section—on the front undersurface of the brain
• Anterior cingulate gyrus—which runs through the middle of the frontal lobes
The PFC is involved in many functions, such as:
• Focus and attention
• Planning
• Organization
• Forethought
• Judgment
• Empathy
• Impulse control
• Learning from mistakes
• Follow-through
Healthy PFC activity helps people think through the consequences of their behavior, which is essential for effective living in nearly every aspect of life. It impacts decisions related to:
• Choosing a good mate
• Interacting with customers
• Dealing with difficult children
• Spending money wisely
• Driving safely on the freeway
Without proper PFC function, it’s difficult to act in consistent, thoughtful ways, and impulses can take over. Damage to the prefrontal cortex can have far-reaching effects, such as with YouTube star Logan Paul. The YouTuber’s decision-making often lands him in hot water and made him the most hated celebrity in 2018.
ADD/ADHD IS A BRAIN-BASED DISORDER
ADD/ADHD is a neurodevelopmental disorder. Functional brain imaging with SPECT scans shows that it is associated with abnormal function in the prefrontal cortex.
On SPECT scans of people with healthy brain function, the act of concentrating increases activity in the PFC. However, when those with ADD/ADHD try to concentrate, PFC activity decreases rather than increases.
Healthy Brain SPECT Scan
In the healthy brain, there is full, even, symmetrical blood flow/activity.
ADD/ADHD Brain SPECT Scan
In the ADD/ADHD brain, there is low blood flow/activity in the prefrontal cortex. In the image here, the holes indicate areas of low blood flow.
Due to low activity in the PFC, people can struggle with a range of ADD/ADHD symptoms, such as:
Poor internal supervision
Short attention span
Distractibility
Disorganization
Hyperactivity (although only half the people with ADD are hyperactive)
Impulse control problems
Difficulty learning from past errors
Lack of forethought
Procrastination
ADD/ADHD AND THE PREFRONTAL CORTEX
Here are some common characteristics of ADD/ADHD that clearly connect this disorder to the PFC:
The harder you try, the worse it gets.
Research has shown that the more people with ADD/ADHD try to concentrate, the worse things get for them. Instead of increasing as it should, the activity in the PFC will actually decrease.
This means that when a parent, teacher, supervisor, or manager puts more pressure on the person or student with ADD to perform, he or she often becomes less effective.
Too frequently when this happens, the parent, teacher or boss interprets this decreased as willful misconduct, and serious problems arise.
Although it is true that almost all of us perform better with praise, praise is especially impactful for people with ADD/ADHD. When the boss encourages an employee to do better in a positive way, it is more likely to lead to greater productivity.
In parenting, teaching, supervising, or managing someone with ADD/ADHD, it is much more effective to use praise than harsh criticism.
You have difficulty paying attention.
A short attention span is the hallmark of this disorder. People with ADD have trouble sustaining attention and effort over prolonged periods of time. Their attention tends to wander and they are frequently off task, thinking about or doing things other than the task at hand.
Yet one of the things that often fools inexperienced clinicians assessing this disorder is that people with ADD/ADHD do not have a short attention span for everything.
Often, people with the disorder can pay attention just fine to things that are new, novel, highly stimulating, interesting, or frightening. These things provide enough intrinsic stimulation that they activate the PFC so the person can focus and concentrate.
You get easily distracted.
The prefrontal cortex sends inhibitory signals to other areas of the brain, quieting stimulation from the environment so you can concentrate. When the PFC is underactive, it doesn’t adequately dampen the sensory parts of the brain. This means that too many stimuli bombard the brain as a result.
Distractibility is evident in many different settings for the person with ADD/ADHD. In class, during meetings, or while listening to a partner, people with ADD/ADHD tend to notice other things going on and have trouble staying focused on the issue at hand.
These are the individuals who tend to look around the room, drift off, appear bored, forget where the conversation is going, and interrupt with extraneous information. Their distractibility and short attention span may also cause them to take much longer to complete their work.
You say and do things impulsively.
Lack of impulse control gets many ADD/ADHD people into hot water. They may say inappropriate things to parents, friends, teachers, supervisors, colleagues, or customers.
Poorly thought-out decisions also relate to impulsivity. Rather than thinking a problem through, these people want an immediate solution and act without the necessary forethought.
In a similar vein, impulsivity causes these people to have trouble going through the established channels at work. They often go right to the top to solve problems, rather than working through the system.
You like drama.
Many people with ADD unconsciously seek conflict as a way to stimulate their own PFC. They do not know they are doing it. They do not plan to do it. They deny that they do it. And yet they do it just the same.
The relative lack of activity and stimulation to the PFC craves more activity. Hyperactivity, restlessness, and humming are common forms of self-stimulation.
Another way that people with ADD will “try to turn on their brains” is by causing turmoil. If they can get their parents or spouses to be emotionally intense or yell at them, it may increase frontal lobe activity. This helps them to feel more tuned in.
Again, this is not a conscious phenomenon, but it appears that many children and adults with ADHD become addicted to the turmoil.
SUPPORT THE PREFRONTAL CORTEX
Anyone with ADD/ADHD needs to support the brain for better prefrontal cortex function. Strategies to optimize the PFC include:
Neurofeedback: Studies show that neurofeedback treatment improves ADD/ADHD symptoms.
Goal setting: Knowing what you want out of life can help you match your behavior to achieve your goals.
Meditation:Studies show that meditation enhances function in the PFC.
Higher-protein diet: Eating a diet that is higher in protein and lower in simple carbohydrates improves focus.
Nutraceuticals: Take supplements, such as omega-3 fatty acids, rhodiola, green tea extract, zinc, ginseng, and ashwagandha.
Some people may also benefit from stimulant medication to optimize brain function and control ADD/ADHD symptoms. Work closely with a mental health professional who uses functional brain imaging to ensure you get the most effective treatment.
ADD/ADHD and other mental health issues can’t wait. At Amen Clinics, we’re here for you. We offer in-clinic brain scanning and appointments, as well as mental telehealth, clinical evaluations, and therapy for adults, teens, children, and couples.Find out more by speaking to a specialist today at 888-288-9834or visit our contact page here.
5 Tips for Reaching the Underachieving Child
Excerpted from Raising Mentally Strong Kids, by Daniel Amen, MD, and Charles Fay, PhD
Underachievement is one of the most complex challenges facing children, parents, and schools, and it can have devastating effects on a young person’s sense of self-worth and mental strength. Too often, parents start with the assumption that the child is simply being lazy. Then these well-meaning adults often resort to practices that make the problem worse.
Here’s an overview of methods that seem like they should work but that tend to backfire. Plus, you’ll find 5 proven tips for reaching the underachieving child to boost their confidence, motivation, and performance.
Underachievement is one of the most complex challenges facing children, parents, and schools, and it can have devastating effects on a young person’s sense of self-worth and mental strength.
Some of the most common but wrong ways to try to motivate underachieving children include:
Threats
Lectures
Reminders
Punishment
An excessive focus on remediating weaknesses at the expense of nurturing strengths
Providing consequences that restrict the child from healthy social and physical activities
Those approaches look like they should work, and decades of parents and teachers have used them. In fact, those tactics may yield some positive short-term results. In the long run, though, they make underachievement worse by creating:
Resentment
Dependency
Entitlement
Anxiety
Hopelessness
Those practices also lower feelings of self-competence, especially with kids who are dealing with problems related to learning, family and peer relationships, mental health, and other deeper issues. As perceptions of self-competence diminish, so does motivation and social and emotional health.
Here are 5 better ways to motivate underachievers.
5 TIPS FOR RAISING AN ACADEMICALLY SECURE AND MOTIVATED CHILD
Tip #1: End the control battle.
As soon as a control battle begins, anxiety increases and academic motivation decreases. As soon as power struggles start, the bond we have with our kids weakens. Control battles can damage many aspects of our children’s development.
Tip #2: Transition responsibility for learning to your child.
Whose learning are we talking about? Is it yours or your child’s? Obviously, you can’t do school for your kids. While true, this doesn’t stop many parents from taking way more ownership in their kids’ learning than their kids do.
Tip #3: Respond with empathy and reasonable, logical consequences.
Anger shuts the door on learning. Empathy opens the door to learning. Anger implies that the problem is ours. Empathy allows it to remain our child’s. Empathy, in and of itself, assists in meeting most of the needs for love and belonging. It calms anxiety, and it helps us communicate that we understand our child’s feelings.
Tip #4: Follow some guidelines for helping with homework.
Successful parents care about their children’s homework, and they follow some basic guidelines for helping in productive ways:
Help as long as your child wants it from you.
Help only when your child can prove that they listen to their teacher.
Help only as long as there is no anger or frustration.
Help in brief segments, so that they can see themselves succeeding.
Tip #5: Look for underlying causes of underachievement.
If you’ve tried these strategies but still aren’t seeing increased motivation or achievement in your child, don’t beat yourself up and don’t get angry with them. Be curious, not furious.
Investigate what might be causing the problem. A biological condition, brain health issue, or mental health problem may be at play.
RAISING MENTALLY STRONG KIDS
You will find several more strategies to reach underachieving children in the book Raising Mentally Strong Kids.In the book, Raising Mentally Strong Kids, Dr. Daniel Amen, a brain and mental health expert, and Dr. Charles Fay, a child psychiatrist and the founder of Love and Logic have teamed up to reveal what’s missing from most parenting books. It’s the fact that you need to address both the brain and the mind of your child (and yourself) in order to be an effective parent and raise competent humans. In this groundbreaking, science-backed book where neuroscience meets practical psychology, parents are given proven tools to help children of all ages go from defiance, meltdowns, and power struggles to being responsible, resilient, and confident. Order your copy now and put your child on the path to a brighter future.If you want to join the tens of thousands of parents and children who have already learned how to be mentally stronger at Amen Clinics, speak to a specialist today at 888-288-9834 or visit our contact page here.