It’s one of the most gut-wrenching, horrifying, heartbreaking things you’ll ever see. The Netflix docuseries, “The Trials of Gabriel Fernandez,” chronicles the 2013 brutal torture and murder of the 8-year-old boy at the hands of his mother and her boyfriend.
The series details how the young boy was routinely beaten, forced to eat kitty litter, and shot in the face with a BB gun. Gabriel’s mother, Pearl, and her boyfriend, Isauro Aguirre, also repeatedly locked him a cabinet, pepper-sprayed him, burned him with cigarettes, called him “gay,” and performed other unconscionable acts. In the series, one of the first responders who arrived on the scene after Pearl called 911 on May 22, 2013, to report that her son had stopped breathing said it was the worst case of abuse she had ever seen.
It makes you wonder, how could anyone inflict such abuse on an innocent child?
Spoiler alert: The remainder of this article reveals information from later episodes of the docuseries.
In one of the episodes, viewers learn about Pearl’s turbulent background and discover that she herself had been a victim of abuse at a young age. She was beaten by her mother, gang-raped, and subjected to an attempted rape by one of her uncles. Pearl started using drugs (methamphetamine and crack cocaine) and drinking alcohol at a very young age, which likely altered her brain function.
Drug and alcohol abuse early in life interferes with brain development and a process called myelination. During this important maturation process that typically isn’t completed until a person’s mid-20s, a protective sheath coats neurons to help speed communication within the brain. It starts at the back of the brain and works its way forward. The prefrontal cortex (involved in judgment, empathy, decision-making, and impulse control), which is located behind the forehead, is the last area to gain this protective coating. When this process is disrupted, it can lead to lifelong dysfunction, poor decision-making, impulsivity, and a lack of empathy.
In fact, the series shows that according to a neurocognitive evaluation by a clinical psychologist, scans of Pearl’s brain showed abnormalities in the right frontal and parietal lobes. The evaluation also indicated that Pearl had a low IQ and no education beyond the 8th grade. In addition, she had been diagnosed with a litany of mental health disorders, including depression, eating disorders, developmental disability, PTSD, and possible personality disorder.
None of this excuses what she did to her sweet child, but it brings to light the fact that it is common for childhood abuse to repeat from one generation to the next.
Can this cycle be stopped?
What brain imaging and clinical psychiatric practice have shown us is that there is hope for putting an end to this destructive cycle. Here are 3 important steps in the process.
If you remember the pain and trauma from the past, it can help you break it for future generations. If, however, you repress it, you are more likely to repeat it.
Some forms of psychotherapy, such as EMDR (Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing) can be very helpful to eliminate or decrease the pain from past traumas (see www.emdria.org to find a therapist near you). Addressing other mental health issues, such as depression, anxiety, ADD/ADHD, or PTSD, can help improve the overall quality of life and the ability to have healthy relationships.
Because childhood trauma can get stuck in the brain’s emotional centers and prevent the brain from processing information normally, it is of the utmost importance to enhance overall brain function with a healthy diet, daily exercise, abstinence from alcohol and drugs, and other lifestyle strategies. Brain imaging studies show that you can change your brain and change your life, which in turn, will change the lives of your children and their grandchildren.
It’s impossible to know if Gabriel’s death could have been avoided if Pearl had sought treatment for her own abusive childhood and mental health problems and if she had adopted brain healthy habits. However, this tragic story should be a wake-up call for all of us to try to heal the traumas of the past that continue to haunt us today and that have a negative effect on our relationships with our children.
At Amen Clinics, we take a comprehensive approach to diagnosing and treating our patients. We perform sophisticated brain imaging to detect underlying brain dysfunction that may be affecting your quality of life and the ability to be an effective parent. We also perform lab work (when needed) and do an extensive assessment of your personal history to identify biological, psychological, social, and spiritual factors that may be contributing to your symptoms. This allows our physicians to create a targeted treatment plan for your individual needs.
If you want to join the tens of thousands of people who have already enhanced their brain health, overcome their symptoms, and improved their quality of life at Amen Clinics, speak to a specialist today at 888-288-9834. If all our specialists are busy helping others, you can also schedule a time to talk.
TikTok, a fast-growing video-sharing app claims its mission is to “capture and present the world’s creativity, knowledge, and precious life moments.” But that doesn’t accurately describe what’s trending lately on the app—a prank that’s been dubbed the “Skull Breaker Challenge.”
In this potentially lethal game, two people stand on either side of a third person and trick them into jumping up in the air. But as the unsuspecting middle person hops up, the two outside people kick the back of the airborne person’s legs, knocking them on their butt, back, or skull.
A pair of students in Daytona, Florida, who pulled the prank on another student are facing misdemeanor charges of battery and cyberbullying, according to a report by Today.
Parents are being encouraged to talk to their children about the dangers of the prank because it could cause broken bones, neck or back injuries, or concussions. It’s admirable that the media is getting the word out about this trending challenge, but most of the coverages neglect to inform parents about the very real and lasting harm that can come from a head injury in early life.
Parents may not be aware that the consequences of a head injury at a young age—in childhood or adolescence—can ruin a young person’s life. Here are 6 ways that traumatic brain injuries (TBIs) impact cognitive, psychological, and behavioral health.
Head trauma can impair cognitive function that leads to school problems. Young people with head injuries are more likely to have trouble with attention, problem-solving, planning, and memory. A study in the journal Pediatrics on children ages 6-13 found that those who had suffered TBIs had higher rates of attention lapses and behavior problems as well as lower intelligence ratings. These issues can impact a young person’s ability to succeed in the classroom and beyond, which can have lasting effects on self-esteem and prevent them from living up to their potential.
Head injuries are a major cause of mental illness, but few people—even healthcare professionals—know it. A wealth of research has shown that young people who have suffered a head injury are at increased risk of ADD/ADHD, depression, anxiety, aggression, personality disorders, and psychosis. Sadly, many people never make the connection between a head injury that happened years or decades earlier and symptoms of depression or another psychiatric disorder. This can lead to years of unnecessary suffering.
Experiencing head trauma as a youth raises the risk of developing a substance abuse problem. Why? Research on animals has found that head injuries cause changes to synapses and neuronal networks with the brain’s reward system. The reward system’s pathways are still under development in childhood and adolescence, and a 2019 study suggests that TBI in early life disrupts the maturation process of this network. Having an increased vulnerability to addictions can ruin a young person’s life as well as the lives of loved ones.
When a head injury causes the brain to ricochet within the skull, it often damages a vulnerable area called the pituitary gland, a pea-sized gland that plays a major role in hormone production. However, pituitary dysfunction following a TBI is potentially underreported, according to a 2017 study. When hormones are off-balance it can alter the way you think, feel, and behave, causing a variety of symptoms, such as fatigue, difficulty concentrating, mood swings, or brain fog. This all leads to a lower quality of life.
Most people worry about the immediate consequences of a concussion, but few understand that its devastating effects can also be felt decades later. Research in the Archives of Neurology shows that moderate to severe TBIs in early life have been linked to a twofold to fourfold increase in the risk of dementia later in life.
One of the most devastating consequences of a TBI is an increased risk of suicide. A 2020 study in the Journal of Affective Disorders found that concussions in youth are associated with a greater chance of suicidal ideation and suicide attempts.
Because of the tremendous impact a head injury can have on a young person’s life, it is critical for parents to talk about the dangerous Skull Breaker Challenge and to monitor children’s internet usage appropriately.
At Amen Clinics, we have helped thousands of children and adults with concussions or TBIs to heal their brain and minimize their symptoms. We use a combination of the least toxic, most effective therapies, which may include neurofeedback, hyperbaric oxygen therapy (HBOT), nutraceuticals, and medications, as well as simple lifestyle changes that can make a big difference.
If you experienced a head injury in your youth, or if your child has suffered head trauma, Amen Clinics can help. Speak to a specialist today at 888-288-9834. If all our specialists are busy helping others, you can also schedule a time to talk.
Do you love your kids? Do you want them to be happy, healthy, and successful? Of course, you do! Unfortunately, many parents who are trying to do their best inadvertently do things that mess up their children’s lives. Then they wonder why their kids are struggling with mental health issues and aren’t reaching their potential.
The human brain uses 20-30% of the calories you consume. If you feed your child a fast food diet, they’re going to have a fast food mind, which is associated with ADD/ADHD, depression, and dementia later in life. Focus on feeding your child brain-healthy foods so they are able to have optimal brain development and function.
Did you know that research shows that teenagers who sleep just one hour less than their peers have overall lower blood flow to their brains and a higher incidence of depression and suicide? Children need much more sleep than most parents realize for optimal brain development and function. For example, the growth hormone actually works more effectively while your child is sleeping. It is essential that you make sleep a priority for your child and stick to a regular sleep schedule.
If your motto is, “Do as I say, not as I do,” you are setting yourself up for frustration. If you lie, cheat, are rude or disrespectful, eat unhealthily, and never address your own health, your child is going to pick up what you do. So, model how you want your child to be.
Heading soccer balls, playing tackle football, or even falling off a bike without wearing a helmet can have devastating consequences for your child’s life. Concussions and traumatic brain injuries (TBIs) are associated with increased risk of depression, anxiety, ADD/ADHD, substance abuse, school problems, and more. The number of concussions in children is rising. From 2010 to 2015, concussion diagnoses in young people aged 10-19 skyrocketed 71%.
While it can be tempting, it is crucial that you not criticize, put down, or complain about your child’s other parent to your child. This not only undermines the effectiveness of the other parent, but it also decreases your child’s self-esteem. Your child is a product of both parents, and by saying negative things about the other parent, you are really saying negative things about your child as well.
By giving in to tantrums, even once, you will teach them what you will tolerate. They will then learn the lesson that misbehaving works to get them what they want. They need to know that they are not able to manipulate you with their behavior.
During adolescence, the most influential people in your teen’s life are the friends they spend the most time with—not you. That is why you want to know the values of the people they are hanging out with. If you are unhappy with what you discover, then get your child involved with the activities of kids who have values that you appreciate.
One of the best sayings related to parenting is, “Be curious, not furious.” Be a good coach rather than a dictator. If a child is unable to have the freedom to explore different ways of thinking and seeing the world and instead feels micromanaged, they are much more likely to rebel and have a conflicted relationship with you.
If you do this and they end up failing to learn something (which they likely will at some point in their lives), then they will tell themselves that they really aren’t smart and become more likely to give up. Instead, point out how hard they work and praise their effort. That way, when something in their life is hard, they will persevere and work harder because their self-esteem comes from hard work, not innate smarts.
Remember what it was like for you when you were a child or a teen. Remember the challenges and struggles you had. This will give you much more empathy for your child. You’ll end up being more helpful to them than if you approach their lives from an adult perspective.
Does your child have trouble with focus and attention? Do they feel anxious or depressed? Do they have conduct or behavior problems? Putting your head in the sand and hoping it just goes away can set your child up for a lifetime of struggles. It takes an average of 11 years from the time kids develop mental health symptoms before they get an evaluation. That’s a lot of unnecessary suffering.
At Amen Clinics, we have treated thousands of children and teens for ADD/ADHD, anxiety, depression, behavioral problems, school problems, addictions, head injuries, and more. We use brain SPECT imaging as part of a comprehensive evaluation to diagnose and treat young people. This helps our Child & Adolescent Psychiatrists identify any dysfunction or damage in the brain, as well as any co-existing conditions, that need to be addressed. Based on this information, we are better able to personalize treatment for your child using the least toxic, most effective solutions for a better outcome.
If you want to help your child live their best life, speak to a specialist today at 888-288-9834. If all our specialists are busy helping others, you can also schedule a time to talk.
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When someone in your family is struggling with a mental health condition—whether it’s anxiety, depression, ADD/ADHD, bipolar disorder, addiction, memory loss, schizophrenia, behavioral problems, or PTSD—it impacts the whole family and can create dysfunction. Most people want to blame all the stress and drama on that one person and believe that if they could just “fix” that individual, everything would be resolved. In reality, it’s rarely that simple. In many cases, other family members are contributing to the problems due to undiagnosed issues.
Here’s how one mother learned this important lesson first-hand.
Jackie was constantly butting heads with her daughter, Maya, a 16-year-old junior in high school who had been diagnosed with ADD/ADHD. Like many teens with this condition, Maya’s room at home was so messy it looked like it had been hit by a tornado. She had trouble focusing and was struggling to keep up with her schoolwork while also studying to take the SAT. Maya was having such a hard time, she started thinking she would never get into college, so why should she even bother studying so hard for the SAT?
Jackie was constantly hounding her daughter to study more and work harder and telling her she was being lazy, which only added to Maya’s discouragement. Jackie was a natural at taking charge and getting things done and expected everybody else to be just as good at powering through their to-do list, so she thought Maya was just being lazy with her study schedule.
On top of that, Jackie hated it when things were out of place, so she would get angry at her daughter for having so much clutter in her room. These negative thoughts would get stuck in Jackie’s head, and she would bring up things Maya did wrong years ago. It all added more stress to Maya’s situation and ratcheted up the mother-daughter tension.
Jackie was convinced that Maya’s ADD/ADHD was the source of all their troubles and if they could just get that under control then everything would be better between them.
Jackie decided to take her daughter for a brain SPECT scan and a comprehensive evaluation so Maya could be “fixed.” After learning more about their relationship, however, the psychiatrist suggested that both Maya and Jackie get scanned. Jackie didn’t think she really needed to have her own brain scanned, after all, it was Maya’s brain that was the problem. But she agreed, assuming the doctor could use her own scan as a healthy example to compare to Maya’s.
After going through the process, Maya’s scan showed low activity in her prefrontal cortex (consistent with ADD/ADHD) combined with increased activity in her basal ganglia and amygdala (a tendency for anxiety and predicting the worst).
The patterns of abnormal brain activity in Maya’s scan related to ADD/ADHD didn’t come as a surprise to Jackie. But she hadn’t realized that her daughter’s negativity was rooted in brain activity that revealed a vulnerability for anxiety disorder. She had always thought it was just a bad personality trait.
Then it came time to review her own scan. What she saw was shocking.
Jackie’s scan showed excessive activity in the front part of her brain in an area called the anterior cingulate gyrus (ACG), which is seen in people with obsessive compulsive disorder and in those who tend to be rigid and hold grudges. For the first time in her life, Jackie grasped that she had brain issues that were fueling the dysfunctional relationship she had with her daughter. “Fixing” her daughter wasn’t going to solve their problems. They both needed to enhance their brain health in order to have a peaceful relationship.
Seeing both of their brain scans also helped Jackie understand that her daughter’s brain simply worked differently from her own, so she stopped expecting Maya to tackle her studies the same way she had done when she was that age. It also helped her see how her parenting style had actually been making Maya’s issues worse. She realized that enhancing Maya’s brain was only part of the solution. She needed to optimize her own brain as well to be able to better support Maya.
With the help of their mental health professional, the two of them began personalized treatment plans using supplements and lifestyle interventions targeted to each individual brain. Maya’s treatment plan focused on boosting activity in the PFC and soothing the basal ganglia, while Jackie’s program aimed to calm her overactive ACG.
After a few weeks, Maya was able to get better organized and stay more focused while studying. And with her own brain calmed down, Jackie stopped getting so upset about things being out of place and quit harping on Maya about things that had happened years earlier. When it came time for the SAT, Maya did better than she had anticipated and eventually got into her top choice for college. And she and her mom now get along much better, so they are both less stressed in general.
At Amen Clinics, when we use brain SPECT imaging to scan entire families, we often discover that one or more family members have a diagnosable mental health condition that has gone undetected. Without this knowledge, the family unit would likely continue to struggle. Optimizing all of the family member’s brains can be the key to a more loving and supportive home life.
If you want to join the tens of thousands of family members who have already visited Amen Clinics and enhanced their brain health, overcome their symptoms, and healed their relationships, speak to a specialist today at 888-288-9834. If all our specialists are busy helping others, you can also schedule a time to talk.
Are you filled with dread at the thought of going home? Is your family constantly at war with each other? Do you feel neglected or worry about a possible violent outburst? You may think you’re the only one whose family life is filled with tension, strife, and emotional chaos. You’d be wrong. Far too many people are living in families where communication, emotional support, and love are in short supply.
Growing up in a dysfunctional family can leave you emotionally scarred and set you up for a lifetime of issues. Not all dysfunctional families are the same though, and each type can create specific problems that carry on into adulthood.
Over 8 million children under the age of 18 live with a parent who has a substance use disorder, according to research in Social Work in Public Health. When one or more parents abuse drugs or alcohol, it can lead to chaotic family life. Children of alcoholics or drug addicts may not have their basic needs met. The addicted parent may forget to pick up the kids from school, neglect to fix lunch or dinner, and skip important health checks. Unreliable and inconsistent parenting causes children to feel insecure and leads to issues with trust and pent-up anger that may linger for decades.
Living in constant fear, being blamed for problems the parent creates and feeling ashamed impact the ability to form healthy relationships later on in life. Children of alcoholics are prone to develop overactivity in the amygdala, the brain’s fear center, and can contribute to mental health conditions, such as anxiety, post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD), and depression. And research in Drug and Alcohol Dependenceshows they are at heightened risk of developing substance use disorders.
Is your family life filled with heated arguments, hurtful disputes, and long-running feuds? When family members are constantly picking fights or pressing each other’s buttons to create conflict, it creates a highly stressful environment. When one family member feels threatened, they may retaliate with even more hateful actions. It doesn’t really matter what the conflicts are about—money, personal style, where to go to dinner, or what to watch on TV—it’s the inability to communicate and resolve issues peacefully that causes lasting damage. Children in conflict-oriented families often develop stress disorders and have trouble with attachment.
Each year, approximately 4.5 to 15 million children are exposed to some form of physical violence in the home. Growing up in a volatile or violent family is a horrific experience that no one deserves. Family violence is not only physical. It can also include verbal, sexual, or psychological abuse or any other behavior that makes you feel unsafe. For children, simply witnessing domestic abuse can have the same devastating effects as experiencing abuse oneself, according to 2018 research in JAMA Network Open.
Childhood trauma causes physical changes in the developing brain that are associated with an increased risk of psychiatric disorders and substance abuse. For example, brain imaging research shows that children who grow up in an abusive environment tend to have:
Authoritarian parents act like dictators, making great demands but giving little positive feedback. Mistakes are often met with severe punishment, which can include yelling, spanking, or other forms of corporal punishment. In these households, the authoritarian sets the rules and it’s “my way or the highway.” Children learn to follow rules but don’t gain valuable experience in making their own decisions or learning from their own mistakes.
When they grow up, these youngsters tend to have poor self-esteem, may be overly aggressive or excessively shy in social situations, may be prone to anxiety or depression, and may be vulnerable to substance abuse due to an inability to control their own behavior.
In some families, signs of affection and warmth are missing. Emotional unavailability and a lack of hugs, handholding, and other physical signs of love teach children to repress their emotions. This causes little ones to bottle up their feelings and have a hard time opening up to others, which can lead to a series of failed relationships.
In some cases, it creates problems with self-esteem and feelings of unworthiness. Without loving parents, children are more likely to have a fear of abandonment, school problems, and psychological issues, such as a lack of identity or personality disorders.
Whichever form of family dysfunction affects your home life, understand that you can overcome these issues. You don’t need to let them ruin your life. Here are some powerful steps that can help you heal from a dysfunctional upbringing.
If you’re struggling with issues that stem from growing up in a dysfunctional family or you’re still caught up in an unhealthy family dynamic, Amen Clinics can help. At Amen Clinics, we can help you—and everyone in the family unit—achieve better brain health and a stronger, more fulfilling relationship. We use brain SPECT imaging to help diagnose mental health conditions and to identify areas of the brain that may benefit from optimization. We believe in using the least toxic, most effective solutions, including psychotherapy, natural supplements, nutritional coaching, medications (when necessary) and more.
To find out more about how we can help, call 888-288-9834 to talk to a specialist today or schedule a visit.
When a family member is struggling but refuses to seek help for a mental health issue, it can be very frustrating. You want them to get better and know that with the right treatment, they can improve, but you feel powerless. Whether your loved one is dealing with bipolar disorder, schizophrenia, PTSD, personality disorders, depression, anxiety, addiction, eating disorders, or some other issue, there are ways you can gently motivate them to seek help.
One of the toughest yet most important things you can do is open up the dialog about what your loved one is going through. Avoid being judgmental or telling them what they “should” or “must” do. Don’t try to prove that you’re right and they’re wrong about their condition. And don’t think you need to provide answers or give them solutions for their symptoms. Sometimes, the best way to start is to simply let them know you care and you’re willing to listen.
Here are some magic words to open communication:
Larry found a good way to get the conversation started with his wife Rose, who grew up in an alcoholic home, had troubles with alcohol and marijuana as a teen, had periodic bouts of depression, was severely inflexible, held grudges, and was “the world’s worst worrier.” She tended to oppose whatever Larry wanted to do, and their arguments were frequently over nothing. Larry knew Rose needed help but wasn’t sure how to broach the subject.
One day, he went to a conference and heard Dr. Daniel Amen speak at a conference for children of alcoholics. It sounded like he was talking about his wife Rose. So, Larry got one of Dr. Amen’s DVDs and when he got home, he suggested he and Rose watch it together. It sparked a conversation, and Rose opened up about her problems, and she got on board with the idea of seeing someone about her issues.
Be prepared that your family member may give you a number of excuses why they can’t access help—too far, too expensive, too time-consuming, for example. Anticipate these objections and offer to help where you can. Do they need someone to watch the kids, drive them to appointments, pay for services? Look into child-care services or offer to do it yourself. Help them arrange for transportation. Help out financially if possible or assist with filling out paperwork to get financial assistance or credit. By eliminating the barriers to care, you can help them focus on getting better.
The stress of caring for someone who is suffering can take a toll on your own mental health. Seeking therapy for yourself can provide you with an outlet to talk about your concerns for your loved one. This also sets a good example for your family members. When they see you talk about how the treatment is helping you, they may be more likely to follow in your footsteps. You may also want to suggest going to therapy together or doing family therapy—not to fix them, but to strengthen all the relationships in the family unit. You can let the psychiatrist know beforehand about your concerns so they can best direct therapy sessions.
If your loved one still refuses to seek help, you may want to contact their regular physician to alert them to your concerns. This may allow the doctor to ask important questions during your family member’s next appointment. This can be helpful for several reasons. For example, some people are more willing to listen to someone outside the family unit, and some people respond better to a professional in the medical field.
Adopting lifestyle habits that enhance brain health is foundational to successful treatment. You don’t need to wait for your loved one to visit a psychiatrist to start infusing brain health awareness into your everyday lives. Rather than focusing only on the person who suffers, which is a strategy that typically invites frustration and failure, get everyone in the family on board with healthy nutrition, exercise, and other brain-healthy habits. When you take the approach that “We’re all trying to get healthier together,” it’s yet another way to open the conversation about mental health.
If you have a family member or loved one who is struggling with mental health issues, understand that there are ways you can help them get the treatment they need. At Amen Clinics, we are here for you to help your family member get the treatment they need.
To find out more about how we can help, call 888-288-9834 to talk to a specialist today or schedule a visit.
Report card time can be stressful for everyone involved. Kids and teens may be wracked with anxiety and dread. And when you see your child’s report card, you may experience frustration, disappointment, and sometimes anger. How you react to those grades can greatly impact your child’s self-esteem, motivation, and mental health.
Wrong reaction: How can you get such bad grades when you spend so much time studying?
Better reaction: If your child spends hours studying but still isn’t doing well at school, it may be time to investigate if a condition, such as ADD/ADHD or another learning problem is keeping your child from performing up to their ability. To make sure your child is getting the support needed, you may want to check into a 504 or Individualized Education Plan (IEP).
Wrong reaction: Don’t be silly, this is a good report card.
Better reaction: Don’t discount your child’s feelings. If your child has a meltdown and feels like a failure because they didn’t get all A’s on their report card, they may be a perfectionist. These students place so much pressure on themselves and often set unrealistic goals, so they never feel good about their achievements. This can take a toll on their self-esteem and mental health. Perfectionists are at increased risk of anxiety, depression, and chronic stress. Help your child by modeling healthy coping strategies, sharing your own stories of how you handle failure and praise them for things other than academic achievements and grades.
Wrong reaction: Why do you ruin everything with your bad attitude?
Better reaction: When disruptive, inappropriate, defiant, or aggressive behavior is skewing grades in the wrong direction, you may be tempted to blame them for their attitude or wait for your child to simply grow out of it. But if behavioral problems persist, it can lead to serious trouble, including eventual suspension or expulsion. Checking with a mental healthcare professional to see if these problems are serious enough to need treatment can help put your student on the path to better behavior and better academic achievement.
Wrong reaction: Tests are no different than homework. It’s all in your head.
Better reaction: Some young people are very smart and diligent, but they struggle on exams due to test-day anxiety. Shaming them just makes them feel worse. Rather than telling them not to worry or that there’s nothing to be anxious about, acknowledge their feelings and teach them some simple strategies to help them overcome exam jitters. Deep breathing is one of the most powerful anxiety tamers and it calms nerves almost instantly. Teaching youngsters how to eliminate ANTs (automatic negative thoughts) is another tool that can help them get past performance anxiety.
Wrong reaction: I’m taking your phone away until your grades improve!
Better reaction: If you know your child hasn’t been doing their homework or has been slacking in the studying department, it’s time for a heart-to-heart about effort. Ask your child if they have a plan to improve and let them know that there will be consequences. Make the consequences more immediate and tie them to their effort. For example, tell them they can’t use their phone until their homework is completed.
Wrong reaction: What’s wrong with you? You used to be so smart.
Better reaction: Don’t be furious about a bad report card, be curious. A sudden drop in grades, especially in teens, may be a cause for concern. Take stock of your teen’s lifestyle habits to determine if a lack of sleep, too many extracurricular activities, or too much time on social media may be preventing them from hitting the books. Be aware that this may also be a warning sign of a more serious problem, such as substance abuse, depression, or being bullied. Talk to your teen about what might be the underlying reasons for the change in grades and consider setting up a meeting with their teacher. Remember that solving the root cause of the problem is far more important than the actual grades, so be sure to support your teen rather than scolding them.
Wrong reaction: You got a great report card, so we’re giving you a new phone.
Better reaction: You may be tempted to reward good grades with money, a shiny new object, or a big celebratory dinner. But doling out gifts sends the wrong message. It tells children that your love is tied to how good their grades are. This can fuel a sense of perfectionism, anxiety, and a fear of failure. Rather than focusing your attention on the letter grades or GPA, pay attention to the effort that went into the grades.
At Amen Clinics, we have treated thousands of children and teens for school problems, including anxiety, behavioral issues, ADD/ADHD, addictions, and more. We use brain SPECT imaging as part of a comprehensive evaluation to diagnose and treat children. This helps our Child & Adolescent Psychiatrists identify any dysfunction or damage in the brain, as well as any co-existing conditions, that need to be addressed. Based on this information, we are better able to personalize treatment for your child using the least toxic, most effective solutions for a better outcome.
Speak to a specialist today at 888-288-9834 or schedule a visit online.
Few people talk about the incredible toll that mental health issues—which brain imaging studies show are actually “brain health” issues—take on families. Bipolar disorder, ADD/ADHD, depression, schizophrenia, and other conditions are all brain disorders. And it only takes one person with a troubled brain to create family dysfunction. When several brains in the same family are troubled, it can create absolute chaos. Look at how it affected this family.
Jack and Monica had been married for 11 years. They were both physicians. Jack was an emergency room doctor, Monica an internist. They sought help because of chronic marital problems. There was recent talk of divorce, but they wanted to salvage the marriage for the sake of their children.
Jack had been diagnosed with ADD/ADHD (not uncommon among emergency physicians) by a local psychiatrist several years earlier. He was disorganized, impulsive, inattentive, distractible, and forgetful. He didn’t follow through on his promises. He was also bad in business and frequently didn’t do the paperwork necessary to get reimbursed for his services. Unfortunately, Jack didn’t have a positive response to ADD/ADHD medications, which made him moody and irritable.
Monica was angry. She blamed every problem in their marriage on Jack’s ADD/ADHD. There was chronic conflict and tension. The situation was made worse by the youngest child, Matthew. He was hyperactive, impulsive, aggressive, and defiant. They had to focus so much of their attention on Matthew that they effectively ignored their older daughter, Jamie. And with their busy schedules and constant stress, the couple could never connect in a positive way.
In therapy, Monica talked about the same point over and over, held grudges from long ago, worried, and tended to automatically argue with everything that came out of Jack’s mouth. When asked about her own family, Monica talked about her father. He was a physician with whom she shared an office. She described him as angry, rigid, and compulsive. If things didn’t go his way, he would throw things, and he talked about how managed care was ruining medicine at least 5 times every day.
Hearing this, it didn’t seem like Jack’s brain was the only problem in the family. Considering Monica’s behaviors and her family history, their psychiatrist suggested that both Jack and Monica get a brain scan, as well as Monica’s dad if he would agree to it. Jack and Monica readily agreed. Monica said if she was part of the problem, she wanted to know about it.
Jack’s scan showed decreased activity in the prefrontal cortex (PFC) and temporal lobes. The PFC is involved in planning, impulse control, and follow-through. When the activity is low in this brain region, people have problems in these areas. The temporal lobes play a role in moods and memory, and abnormal activity here is associated with temper problems and forgetfulness. Based on his evaluation, Jack started taking a different medication, exercising intensely, eating better, and taking supplements for focus.
Monica’s scan showed marked overactivity in the anterior cingulate gyrus. This area, known as the brain’s gear shifter, is what allows us to go from thought to thought. When there is too much activity in this region, people tend to get stuck on thoughts and behaviors and they are more likely to have obsessive compulsive disorder.
No doubt she was faced with a tough marriage, but her overactive cingulate was not helping her have the needed flexibility to roll with the regular ups and downs of living in an ADD/ADHD family. To help optimize her brain, she started taking targeted supplements and exercising.
Their son Matthew’s scan showed brain patterns consistent with ADD/ADHD and oppositional defiant disorder (ODD), a behavioral problem in which children are uncooperative, argumentative, and defiant. He had decreased prefrontal cortex activity and too much activity in the anterior cingulate gyrus (a combination of mom and dad). Matthew was given a treatment plan that included supplements, medication, and lifestyle changes.
Their daughter Jamie had a balanced brain, but in order to thrive, she needed more attention from her parents, more consistent parenting, and less drama at home.
Once Jack and Monica began to optimize their brain function, they were able to work on their marriage and develop superior parenting skills. The parent training really helped them work together in raising Matthew and Jamie. Up to that point they just used their parenting style differences as another way to disagree. This had left Matthew feeling confused and upset about what was right and what was wrong, and it had contributed to his defiance.
Over about six months the family began to heal. There were fewer fights, more loving interactions, and a deeper understanding of the underlying problems. Jack became more focused and his memory was better. Monica became more flexible and able to let go of hurts. Matthew settled down and was becoming happier and more cooperative. And Jamie no longer felt ignored and unimportant.
A few years after this, Monica’s father volunteered to get a brain scan. He was very pleased that his grandson was doing better and that his daughter seemed happier in her marriage. Her father’s brain scan showed a very overactive anterior cingulate gyrus (like Monica’s). He agreed to take targeted supplements and began exercising regularly. Over time, he became more relaxed, more flexible, and stopped talking about managed care. Monica was thrilled that learning more about their brains had helped three generations of her family.
As Monica learned, brain health problems that manifest as psychiatric illnesses don’t just affect the person with the condition. They can affect the whole family and even multiple generations. Understanding this can bring healing and hope for generations of families to come.
If anyone in your family is struggling with ADD/ADHD, anxiety, depression, bipolar disorder, or any other mental health issue, don’t ignore it. It can negatively impact the entire family dynamic. At Amen Clinics, we use brain SPECT imaging as part of a comprehensive evaluation to find underlying patterns of brain dysfunction so we can more accurately diagnose and treat conditions. We have found that scanning all members of a family offers a clearer view of how each person is contributing to the problem and how they can optimize their brain to create a happier family.
To help your family, call 888-288-9834 to talk to a specialist today or schedule a visit.
The ice caps are melting! Sea levels are rising! The Amazon rainforest is burning! Orangutans will be extinct within 10 years! Planet Earth is dying!
Every day, we’re bombarded with distressing and disturbing updates about the impending threats of climate change and other environmental disasters. It’s enough to make you stressed, sad, and worried sick.
According to the American Psychological Association, one of the biggest dangers of climate change is the erosion of mental health in America. In a 2017 report called “Mental Health and Our Changing Climate,” the APA said the impact of climate change will “cause some of the most resounding chronic psychological consequences.”
Co-written with environmental organizations EcoAmerica and Climate for Health, the report also claims, “Gradual, long-term changes in climate can also surface a number of different emotions, including fear, anger, feelings of powerlessness, or exhaustion.”
Helplessness, hopelessness, and fatalism are on the rise, and the report suggests that climate change, natural disasters, and environmental catastrophes are contributing to mental health disorders, such as anxiety, depression, PTSD, substance abuse, aggression and violence, suicidal thoughts and behavior, and more.
Some are calling it eco-anxiety.
If you spend your days fretting about the perils facing our planet, you aren’t alone. Millions of Americans and people around the world are expressing a deep sense of malaise about the possibility of impending environmental doom.
Greta Thunberg, a Swedish teenage climate activist, launched a school strike for the climate in 2018 and has since become a global icon. In Greta’s 2018 TED Talk, she sounded the alarm bell, saying “We are in the midst of the sixth mass extinction, with up to 200 species going extinct every single day.” That’s scary stuff! Her talk has already been viewed over 3.9 million times. And some 7 million people joined her #weekforfuture climate strikes in 2019.
People’s fears go beyond a personal level. You may not be worried about the impacts of climate change in your own lifetime. You may be more concerned about what it means for your children, grandchildren, and future generations. You may feel tremendous guilt that you haven’t done enough personally to reduce your carbon footprint and that your daily habits are making things worse for the future. At the same time, you may feel powerless to effect change on a meaningful scale.
The number of people experiencing eco-anxiety is rising. A 2018 Yale survey—Climate Change in the American Mind—involving 1,114 American adults found that 69% of Americans say they’re “somewhat worried” about climate change and 29% are “very worried” about it. About 56% of Americans think their families will be harmed by global warming, and 75% think future generations will be negatively affected.
Psychologists and psychiatrists are seeing a growing number of people who are feeling stressed about the environment. Eco-anxiety can cause many of the same symptoms seen in other anxiety disorders—panic attacks, nervousness, headaches, muscle tension, conflict avoidance, nausea, dizziness, and more. Fear of climate change can also be viewed as a form of phobia.
A 2011 report from the National Wildlife Foundation suggests the mental healthcare system is inadequately prepared to handle the increases in psychological disorders. The report says, “The American mental health community, counselors, trauma specialists, and first responders are not even close to being prepared to handle scale and intensity of impacts that will arise from the harsher conditions and disasters that global warming will unleash.”
What can you do?
If you’re suffering from eco-anxiety, there is help. Many of the therapies and treatments for anxiety disorders and panic attacks, phobias, and depression may be helpful in overcoming feelings of dread about climate change and the environment.
Amen Clinics has helped thousands of people overcome all types of anxiety disorders, panic attacks, phobias, and depression. We use brain SPECT imaging to help identify which type of anxiety and depression you have and to help find the least toxic, most effective personalized solutions as part of a brain-body approach to healing.
If eco-anxiety is has overtaken your life and is interfering with your work, school, home life, or relationships, it’s time to get help. Speak with a specialist today at 888-288-9834 or schedule a visit online.
When young adults head to college, they sometimes worry about the dreaded “Freshman 15″—the 15 (or more) pounds new students often pack on during their first year in school. But there is something far more worrisome than going up a pant size.
Did you know that many serious mental health conditions begin during young adulthood? The age of onset for bipolar disorder, schizophrenia, substance use disorders, eating disorders, psychosis, and suicidal thoughts and behavior is common in the late teens or early 20s—a time when many students are entering college. In fact, 75% of mental health conditions start by age 24, according to the National Alliance on Mental Illness.
And the numbers are getting worse. In 2017, teens and young adults in the U.S. were more prone to depression, distress, and suicide compared with Millennials when they were the same age.
What is the connection between college and mental illness?
The human brain is not finished developing until age 25 for females, and closer to age 28 for males. A process called myelinization is still underway. With this process, brain cells are coated with a protective sheath that increases the brain’s processing speeds. The process starts at the back of the brain and works forward, making the front part of the brain—the prefrontal cortex that is involved in focus, planning, decision-making, judgment, and follow-through—the last area to gain the protective covering.
Because of this, young people need supervision until their brains have matured and they can supervise themselves. Throwing young adults into an environment where they no longer have parental supervision when their brains have yet to fully develop invites risky behavior and poor habits that may contribute to mental health issues.
The last years of high school and the first years of college can be extremely stressful. And stress can wreak havoc on brain health. Dealing with challenging life circumstances—such as starting college, moving, having new roommates—elevates stress hormone levels and makes people more vulnerable to many mental health conditions. Toxic stress has been associated with ADHD, learning disabilities, social anxiety, depression, alcohol and drug abuse, PTSD, and more.
Unfortunately, young people don’t learn about stress management skills in school. Learning how to deal with stress in a healthy way should be taught in elementary classes nationwide.
Cheesy pizza, bottomless cups of coffee or sodas, bags of chips, kegs of beer—the foods most college students eat zap brainpower and mess with your mental well-being. In 2015, a group of 18 scientists concluded that “the emerging and compelling evidence for nutrition as a crucial factor in the high prevalence and incidence of mental disorders suggests that diet is as important to psychiatry as it is to cardiology, endocrinology, and gastroenterology.”
The standard student diet is filled with pro-inflammatory, allergenic foods laced with artificial chemicals that will damage the brain and increase the risk for depression, ADHD, and anxiety disorders, as well as diabetes, hypertension, heart disease, cancer, and even dementia.
While you are sleeping, your brain is hard at work performing some very critical functions necessary to keep it operating at optimal levels. For example, during sleep, your brain cleans or washes itself by eliminating cellular debris and toxins that build up during the day (basically taking out the neural trash), consolidates learning and memory, and prepares for the following day.
College students are notorious for pulling all-nighter study sessions and partying until dawn. It adds up to a sleep deficit that can take a toll on mental health. Over time, sleep problems can lead to a higher risk of mental health problems, including depression, ADHD, panic attacks, brain fog, memory problems, and dementia. For example, teenagers who on average get an hour less sleep at night were 38 percent more likely to feel sad and hopeless, 42 percent more likely to consider suicide, 58 percent more likely to attempt suicide, and 23 percent more likely to engage in substance abuse.
At Amen Clinics, we have helped thousands of struggling students overcome brain imbalances and mental health problems so they can be more successful at school and in life. Speak to a specialist today at 888-288-9834 or schedule a visit online.