The Hidden Dangers of Bottling Up Emotions

Bottling up emotions can harm your brain, body, and relationships. Learn the risks—and how to process emotions in healthy ways.

When someone asks how you are, is “fine” your default answer—even when you’re not? Do you tend to hide your true feelings from others, including close friends and family?

Do you often feel disconnected and numb? Or are you prone to excessive or explosive emotional outbursts or reactions, even after seemingly minor setbacks?

Any of these symptoms may occur when you bottle up your emotions, a habit also called emotional suppression. This means that rather than facing, feeling, and working through emotions—whether positive or negative—you tend to bury or deny them.

While it can seem preferable in the moment to avoid feeling difficult emotions, this practice can lead to all kinds of issues, psychological as well as physical. This blog will explore some of its many dangers, symptoms to watch out for, and how to instead process your emotions in healthy ways.

Over decades, researchers have discovered significant evidence that bottling up emotions is associated with a long list of negative effects, from poorer health outcomes to less satisfying relationships.

THE DANGERS OF BOTTLING UP EMOTIONS

Over decades, researchers have discovered significant evidence that bottling up emotions is associated with a long list of negative effects, from poorer health outcomes to less satisfying relationships.

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Here are just some of the ways that suppressing emotions can impact well-being:

Social consequences. A study of students published in the Journal of Personality and Social Psychology examined the links between suppressing emotional expression and the adaptation and social skills required for transitioning to college.

Researchers found that “suppression predicted lower social support, less closeness to others, and lower social satisfaction.” Indeed, an inability to trust others and to express emotions are often intertwined.

Mortality risk. A 12-year study surveyed the association between suppressed emotions and mortality. It considered death from all causes, as well as cardiovascular and cancer mortality.

Those with emotional suppression scores in the higher range (75th percentile) had a 35 percent greater risk for all-cause mortality than those in the 25th percentile. That number jumped to a 70 percent greater risk when examining cancer and cardiovascular disease mortality in particular.

Mental health issues. A study of men with prostate cancer, almost half of whom demonstrated signs of major depression, found that suppressing emotions was linked to anger and depression symptoms. Bottling up emotions was associated with low moods, sleep problems, and feelings of guilt among the cancer patients studied.

Different research uncovered an association between bottling up emotions and increased aggression. In this case, subjects who suppressed their reactions to disturbing film scenes displayed more aggression afterward, versus those who were allowed to show their emotions while viewing.

Finally, a study that examined adolescents between 14-19 years old found links between emotional suppression and how they responded to challenging life events. Those who bottled up their emotions were more likely to experience both suicidal thoughts and suicide attempts.

Compromised health and decision making. A 2019 study that examined repressed emotions symptoms noted many dangerous ripple effects of this habit, including:

  • Physiological symptoms, including chronic pain, fatigue, and sexual dysfunction
  • Immune system suppression
  • Substance abuse
  • Poor nutrition and/or disordered eating
  • Lack of exercise
  • Abnormal sleep patterns
  • Poor compliance with medical interventions
  • Self-destructive behaviors
  • Higher stress levels

Clearly, emotional suppression consequences can be hazardous to health and relationships in numerous ways. Repressed emotions, in addition to the many effects outlined above, may also lead to angry outbursts, isolation, and feelings of numbness.

Keep in mind that bottling up your emotions doesn’t always look negative. For example, some people bottle up their emotions by restricting themselves to only positive thinking. This habit, also called “toxic positivity,” can be just as harmful, since negative emotions must be allowed expression for optimal mental health.

Human beings evolved to have a negativity bias, because staying alert and aware of potential dangers literally keeps us alive. So, while it’s harmful to remain stuck in an overly critical outlook, it’s important to acknowledge and even embrace negative emotions when they arise.

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 HOW TO STOP BOTTLING UP EMOTIONS

If you’re guilty of bottling up your emotions, it’s possible to change this habit. You can learn how to be more expressive and cope with your feelings rather than stuffing them down or pretending they don’t exist.

Here are some tactics to start processing your emotions in a healthier way:

  1. Conduct regular check-ins. Pause and ask yourself throughout the day how you’re feeling. Scan your physical body for signs of tension, like a clenched jaw or digestive issues.

The first step toward processing negative emotions is being aware that they exist. Fortunately, your physical state will often alert you to these issues.

  1. Find healthy outlets for your emotions. Physical activity is a great way to regulate emotions and boost mood while making an investment in your long-term health.

Meanwhile, stress-relieving practices like meditation, prayer, and deep breathing also help relieve anxiety and can reduce the intensity of your strongest emotions.

  1. Journal to release emotions. Emotional freedom journaling is a brain-healing tool that helps you uncover and release the negative emotions that may be fueling emotional or physical pain.

This practice encourages you to review your life, revisiting both positive and painful experiences along the way. It helps bring repressed emotions like fear, shame, or anger into conscious awareness.

This practice helps you get out of a harmful cycle of distress and gently moves you toward peace, clarity, and true emotional freedom.

  1. Share with a trusted audience. Whether you seek out a friend, family member, counselor, or mental health professional, having someone to talk with about your emotions can lessen their burden. It can also help you get comfortable with showing your emotions to others—without apologizing for them.
  2. Face your emotional fears. We’ve all heard the saying, “There’s nothing to fear but fear itself.” There’s a lot of truth to this statement. Facing our fears (such as negative emotions) will help us understand that there’s nothing to fear!

For example, approaches like cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT) can help rewire negative thought patterns while introducing healthier ways to handle challenges and stressors. You can also deconstruct and reframe any automatic negative thoughts (ANTs) using Amen Clinics’ How to Kill the ANTs practice.

Related: Automatic Negative Thoughts (ANTs) How to Stop Toxic Thinking and Rewire Your Brain

Over time, you will learn that you don’t need to avoid or be afraid of negative emotions. They are actually instrumental in making us stronger, wiser, and more resilient human beings. They only need to be processed in a healthy way and in safe settings.

EMBRACE YOUR EMOTIONS FOR BETTER HEALTH

While it’s more acceptable now to display emotions than in decades past, they can still be a source of shame, guilt, and fear for many Americans. This can be especially true for men, who are often taught to be stoic or “strong” in the face of threats.

But we now know that showing our emotions is a sign of strength. And “sucking it up” can destroy our health—physical, psychological, and emotional.

Rather than bottling up your emotions, learn to let them out in productive ways. With practice and patience, you’ll notice that your well-being, relationships, and quality of life steadily improve.

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